Dating my friend
Try talking it out with your friend, especially if they knew you liked the person.If you had spent a lot of time chatting with your BFF about your crush, it can feel extra confusing if something starts brewing between them.They may understand if you would like to pursue a relationship.Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to friendships, and that's especially true for difficult situations like this one.As an alternative, try saying something like: “I felt hurt when I saw the news of you and [name of person] dating, because I had communicated my feelings about that person to you.” Hasha also suggests sharing what you would have liked to see happen instead, such as: “It would have been helpful for me if you had talked to me about it first, to give me time to process before you guys started openly dating.”4.If for some reason your friend know that you liked this person, you’ll probably need to have a different kind of conversation — but it’s still super-important to communicate.Give yourself permission to walk away from the situation for a little while.Even after you’ve spoken with your friend, you might need some time to adjust and heal — and that might mean avoiding seeing the two of them together for a bit.
In fact, you’ve poured over details of your conversations, analyzed text messages together, and even strategized ways to confess your feelings (in the most chill way possible, of course). Your BFF starts dating that person that Unfortunately, it’s a situation that’s rather common, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.
Depending on the situation, you may find yourself faced with some significant heartache, but it’s important to remember that being the wrong person for your crush doesn’t mean you aren’t the right person for someone else.
If your friend has not decided to date your crush, you may want to consider discussing it with them.
Tasha Rube is a Licensed Master Social Worker in Missouri.
She received her MSW from the University of Missouri in 2014.