Dating women who smoke
3 packs a day for 20 years, with a chronic cough, deep voice...
If only just a friend, I would be concerned, let alone someone who is in love with her. A typical smoker will die ~15 years earlier than normal?
Before then, I only ever dated one person that smoked and I absolutely hated every minute of it LOLGiven my past, it's *critical* to me that someone I'm in any type of relationship with is at least somewhat "healthy". I'm not really attracted to smokers, and my girlfriend (who stopped smoking a few weeks before we got together) knows that if she started again, we wouldn't last long, maybe a month or so before we broke up.
Doesn't mean they have to be a gym rat eating sprouts but not exercising, being notably overweight, smoking etc. I'm just getting to the age where I'm seeing parents and their friends really starting to have health issues, not being able to travel or other things because they haven't taken care of themselves. Never smoked around me, always excused herself, never asked for special accommodations. I can't suggest anything you haven't though of yourself. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. Over ,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum.
I have always been against smoking as I saw what my Dad went through, he was a chain smoker for 33 years until he was set free when he (lucky for him) got very sick for 10 days and was hospitalized; when he left the hospital he thought he better not light another up as he had gone this far and made it! I never smoked and always found women who smoked a turn off.
they are hard-wired into you from how you grew up it takes work on yourself, through understanding yourself as the other half of that relationship (a co-dependent, an enabler, a rescuer) with an addict. Through observing and understanding your interactions with the addict (guess what, it's all about you, and not about them at all), and where they stem from within you, that is where change occurs. But the smoke getting into a smoker's skin is no exaggeration. If I have a conversation with one of them, I always take a step back. As a former smoker, I can't stand cigarette smokers. I tried to over look it as we seemed to hit it off pretty well.Well since I only saw her once a week, I found out several weeks later how much of an addict she was.Not understanding the compulsive fascination with smoking I hit the Internet to educate myself. (If they are lucky) If you don't die from Lung Cancer, you will from numerous other diseases if not from a breathing disorder (COPD, Enphesema) AMAZING... Well you know what that means, it's Junky thinking at it's best.After a short while I was FLOORED with what I learned. After months of discussions and disagreements she finally agreed to quit. I told her that from what I read, that unless something bad happened to her she would most likey never quit.