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(468) After the wedding was over, came Sossius through Phoenicia, having sent out his army before him over the midland parts.
It was preceded by a betrothal that was much more binding than is an engagement in modern societies.
The king also came himself from Samaria, and brought with him no small army, besides that which was there before, for they were about thirty thousand; (469) and they all met together at the walls of Jerusalem, and encamped at the north wall of the city, being now an army of eleven legions, armed men on foot, and six thousand horsemen, with other auxiliaries out of Syria." (Josephus, Antiquities 14.465469) The proof of virginity cloth is handed to the witnesses and the bride's parents for safekeeping and the entire wedding party make their way to the groom's house and the door is closed when the last person in the procession enters."Jesus says that this kingdom will be like ten girls with torches who were going out to meet the bridegroom.
This makes clear that Jesus is speaking of a wedding.
Gifts and money are given both to the bride and the parents of the bride.
Notice that Rebekah was asked if she consented to the marriage.